As a man I've often wished the same thing. But this refractory period seems to be associated with the secretion of prolactin (which women also secrete) & reduced dopamine levels, which alter mood. That's no excuse for turning into a beast, or loosing interest in one's partner altogether, but it is, to a degree, out of our control. There are a small number of men who don't secrete prolactin, & don't experience this refractory period & thus are capable of multiple orgasms.

But certainly not your humble correspondent.

As for the rest, spot on.