I think some of the other comments nailed it quite well. Especially the notion of WHITE PERSON putting him or herself into the position of the free-pass-blond-kids.

After all, the grass is always greener.

I appreciate reading accounts of hardship. E.g. fat women who write about the difficulty growing up thus. Okay. I'm learning. Then, almost invariably, something's included to suggest that fat men have it much easier. One woman wrote that she "saw fat guys asking pretty girls out on dates...." That's it. Nothing about whether or not the pretty girls accepted. Right? ('pon my word: they did not).

Sometimes it's the same with race. I must say Coate's "The Case for Reparations" really opened my eyes to some of the more recent shenanigans that have been going on. And there was the degree to which the GI Bill was stolen from black veterans. I hadn't known that.

I think sometimes we confuse issues of class with race. Unfortunately, some conservatives think that class bigotry gives them a pass from racism. "I didn't disparage him because he's black, but rather that he's poor!" see? I'm a not-so-bad-guy!

I'm having that problem myself right now. I just read about the case of the Heritage High student Jimmy Galligan who posted a video of the lead varsity cheerleader saying the "N" word in a selfie video she had done 3 years earlier. Galligan, whose father is white & mother black, waited a year after receiving the video to post it on social media. On the day the cheerleader, Mimi Groves, announced her acceptance to the University of Tennessee & their elite cheer squad. Now, of course, all that's blown to pieces.

I don't doubt Galligan's account of having his concerns about racist incidents at the school (in northern VA) basically dismissed. But I went to high school, too. And Jimmy, however smart & achieving, is not in the same class as the head varsity cheerleader. So I'm left with the sin of denial here, to claim I believe he did it mainly for the sake of schadenfreude, to bring down his social better.

Finally, I agree that racism is white people's problem. One that impacts black people the way DUIs impact other people minding their own business. And, like DUI, as it became a more serious offense, those accused were more likely to hire attorneys, fight the charge in court because the consequences became more extreme. MADD was right to fight for stiffer DUI laws, but not all of the consequences were of their liking.