Why would "hot" & friendly/intelligent be mutually exclusive? In his case, so far as I know, it wasn't.

I was responding to Umair's assertion that men, or most men, believe they have to behave as douchebags in order to date hot women.

Even for me, the proto-incel while in high school, it never occured to me that the hottest girls were drawn to assholes, but rather equally hot guys, most of whom, in my experience, were decent enough blokes.

LA born & raised, now I live upstate. I hate snow. I write on healthcare, politics & history. Hobbies are woodworking & singing Xmas carols with nonsense lyrics